What do we really “see”?

Sight is probably the most commonly regarded as being indispensible amongst the five senses we know. Without it, one is left to the mercy of perpetual darkness, deprived of the goodness of light which we very often take for granted. Most of us can relate to or might have used this phrase ‘ Even a blind man can see” . It is commonly used as an expression of sarcasm towards our peers or those in contact in school, at the work place and even at home whenever they fail to see that ‘truth’. In most cases, regardless of context, it is not only a weak attempt at being witty but shows that we’re quick to pass our judgments with the very little we know.

When we deal with emotions, in particular- matters of the heart and mind, and the intrinsic values that motivate many varied responses in a person, just what do we ‘see’ or understand exactly when we say that we see or make sense of a situation? Are we only confined to the partial glimpse of reality through our lack of patience and insensitivity or simply our failure to consider all possibilities for a particular cause? We possess different sets of framework of values or beliefs based on our experiences and very often use that same collection of values to judge others. Just as how the deprivation of sight in the literal sense, gravely affects a blind person, the effects of our misjudgement can also be detrimental to the wellness of the victims of our own viciousness.

It might not be unreasonable to suggest that many problems that we sometimes face today collectively as a society are caused by our own failure of not being able to ‘see’ the reality of things at an individual level resulted from our biased judgements. Anxiety, Fear and Insecurity are few of the many social illnesses that many societies are faced with today.

I think this poses a challenge for all of us to be bold enough to make a difference in making our surroundings tolerable for all. So the next time you’re attempted to ever readily lash out your malicious remarks ,consider channeling that energy into more constructive use, understanding that person or empathizing in that particular situation. A good rule of thumb that I personally use, would be “not to do on others what u wouldn’t want others doing on to you”. I bet you saw that coming. ; )

Stay the same

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"Not doing it" - A better option ?

My apologies to those of you who may find my little reflection too harsh and possibly one-sided. I was initially reluctant to post this as an entry here. However, I’ll not compromise by deviating from my true intent and I urge you to take this as an expression of my values.

Just a week before the Lunar New Year, I managed to meet up with 2 friends. It was a casual meet up with the usual excessive food and drinks from a nearby market. One of them has been seeing a new guy for the past couple of weeks after her breakup with her ex-boyfriend then started to make comparisons on how the previous was ‘better’ than the present. She cited how her previous man would never fail to make the extra effort to open the taxi door from her side and push or pull door handles in shopping malls in any given situation just for her convenience of not laying a finger. I was puzzled and asked her what these ‘acts’ mean to her. She did not answer my question directly but said that it’s nice to have someone doing these little things for her. Obviously, It mattered much to her that her present suitor didn’t live up to that expectation of hers, otherwise she wouldn’t have brought it up.

I think it’s important that we have the ‘right’ intentions to back our every action before engaging in an act at all. So what if it’s a ‘nice’ or ‘sweet’ gesture but the person executing it harbors warped ideas or simply did it for the sake of doing it just for ‘showmanship’. Getting back into perspective, to me it’s clear that sometimes “the not doing it” option is a more dignified one.